Family Strength 2

Young Adults

Both Men and Women at this stage are matured enough to start a family.There are checks and balances.

1.A Matured young man, must always visit the Old Men Meetings which take place weekly,monthly and yearly.He is expected to contribute positively in the tribal problems.

2.Moreover,he must show the "extreme" respect to the meetings.

3.He must know his "place" very well.The decisions of the elderly are final.The deviation is punishable or family expulsion

4.He must not have "bad" record of not doing his duties at home

5.The Elderly Council may "ban" him not to attend the council meetings or to keep quiet during meetings.

6.He might be instructed to call members of the Council for the meeting with bare foot and arrange food which will be a forced donation from his kraal or from his family kraal.The duration of that punishment will be decided by the Council.

7.He must respect the Opposite Sex whether old or young even his own family.

8.To crown it all, he must have the resources like land,cattle usually donated by his family.

After he has "passed" the 8 crieria,then he will be "interviewed" and observed by his family and he may propose a girl.Other families want a full report about the girl family.Usually the past,present and the envisaged future of the girl family is discussed.That will be discussed in the next post.

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